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#ad #sponsored Hi friends!!! It’s been over 2 mo

#ad #sponsored Hi friends!!! It’s been over 2 months since I’ve been on the gram but I’m back AND with my very first affiliate marketing collaboration. @zulay_kitchen gifted me with their Organic Matcha Green Tea Powder and Handheld Milk Frother. Swipe to see my Matcha Affogato recipe and click link in bio to see the other FOUR recipes on my new website =] Check them out and use CODE “MYCHOPSTICKSANDSTILETTOS10” for 10% off your order!
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H-O-L-D U-P. SLOW DOWN. Metaphorically speaking

H-O-L-D U-P. SLOW DOWN.

Metaphorically speaking, which doors are you walking through with no rhyme or reason?
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I recently had to acknowledge ONCE AGAIN and OUT LOUD the part of me that’s afraid I’m going to fail regardless of everything I learned, all the books I read, all the money on life coaching I spent, and somehow it’s going to mean something bad about me. I’ve always put unnecessary pressure on myself trying to find the one right way because how dumb would I look if I made a mistake and the secret is out that I’m not perfect? Remember when I said sometimes your little voice is a mean fkng bitch? This is that. As confident as I am, I still self sabotage. Somewhere deep down I’m feeding that monster in me that doesn’t deem myself worthy. (Tbh I think this originated from an ex bf but that's a story for another day). I’m the type that likes to think things to death -every angle and possible outcome- before I shoot my shot all in the name of “doing it right” and not wasting time or looking stupid. I busy myself reaching for low hanging fruit to appease what I feel is wasted time but all I'm doing is stalling, stressing and burning myself out. In trying to prevent the thing, I end up doing the thing. Self fulfilling prophecies reside in “what you resist will persist.”
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My brain is always looking for a problem to fix but there isn’t always a problem so I just make one up 🤦🏻‍♀️. I don’t even know I do it and I feel betrayed when I catch it. And then I kick myself for “doing that thing again.” In reality, learning from trial and error is way more beneficial, as it saves more time and banks so many more valuable life lessons. Also, fk what ANYONE thinks. If they don’t pay your bills, pay them no mind... and If they do, fk them all the same. We can make our own $.

There is no ONE right way.

What’s the rush? Take your time. Feel free to share your monsters and let’s set those fkrs on fire.

TL; DR I’m going to unplug... for at least a week. Curate your own TikTok show lol. Hey... send me a Venmo I’ll reconsider 😂
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#liveyourlife #liveauthentically get yourself a #lifecoach #unplug #selfsabotage #worthiness

This was what I chose to do after my life coaching

This was what I chose to do after my life coaching session yesterday. I learn SO much about my brain and habits that after an hour session I’m usually pretty drained emotionally/mentally.. in a good way!!

Key things I’d like to share that you might relate to:
1. My brain always jumps to fix a problem but what is THE problem? Is there even a problem?
2. If you have a goal/dream in mind, is the way you are living your life working out for you? Hey... the answer for me was No lol
3. I’ve been pretty drained watching, not necessarily engaging with, anti-maskers and racists... but I did it to the point where I gave these people my power hence that low point I hit last week. These people are not the majority. And engaging with them is not always the way. Sometimes a way to combat oppression is to live the life you want...bittttchhhh. Lol.. that last part was obviously not her.

So while this TikTok might seem unrelated, dress for the job you want and live your life in integrity to what you say you want.
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#tiktokchallenge #liveyourlife #liveauthentically get yourself a #lifecoach

I’ve had a life coach for almost 7 months now. I

I’ve had a life coach for almost 7 months now. It’s one of the BEST things I’ve done for myself if not THE best. Here are 5 things I’ve learned that I’d like to share.
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1. That voice in your head that you think is you talking to yourself (because for most of us it's our own voice)... is full of shit sometimes. Question that bitch on the regular. My words, not hers lol.

2. Know when to be selfish. When you take care of yourself first, you have more to give.

3. That thing you’ve been thinking and wanting to do? Say it out loud. Then say it louder.

4. What is possible when you act in the present versus acting in reaction to your past?

5. Use your frustration as a challenge and call to action.

If I advised you to act in reaction to your past (the opposite of #4) my top 5 would look like this:

1.Don't listen to that voice in your head anymore
2. Stop being a martyr.
3. Stop overthinking.
4. Stop reacting to your past.
5. Don't get frustrated.

Did you resonate differently with each list? Lmk! I'm curious.

And from me.. if you want that whole bag of Doritos GO GET IT. If you want to eat shredded cheese from the bag AND melt them on your Doritos DOOO ITTT. Give yourself permission to DO YOU. And if you need someone else to do it, I'm telling you GO GET THAT BAG.
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This is how I'm feeling after a floorwork class wi

This is how I'm feeling after a floorwork class with @hartlessmalone and @theperlenoire ❤️ I think I hit my lowest point the other day (I hope), and I'm slowly coming out of it. This class helped me feel more connected to myself. It somehow still surprises me that @theperlenoire can speak for 2 seconds and I start to tear up 😂. Today was a good day and it's not over. Thanks, ladies!!!!!
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#knix #selfcaresis #selflovetips #floorwork #burlesque #burlygirl

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